Monday, August 2, 2010

You can get with this or you can get with that

We’ve all seen it, that is if you watch any kind of television you’ve seen it.

Seen what, you might ask?

This commercial for the Kia Soul.

I love it!

Well, I loved it until I realized this weekend how much it actually resembles my personal life. I don’t like it so much anymore.

In case you haven’t seen it, are too lazy to click on the link above and watch it, or just don’t really give a crap what it is I’m talking about, I’ll describe it to you.

It’s basically a commercial with four really hip hamsters decked out in gold chains, low riding pants, baseball caps that cover their eyes, and bad ass high top tennis shoes. They are rapping a song whose basic gist is either you drive this cool, hip Kia Soul (you can get with this), or you drive something cheesy (or you can get with that).

This commercial basically sums up my dating life in less than one minute. Sad, isn’t it?

You see, as of late, I have had three more guys that I dated, get married or engaged. And, if I were being honest with you, I would say, it stings quite a bit.

Mr. Buckeye, the guy I dated for almost a year recently got married, my Rock Star/Cougar Cub finally dumped his fiancé, but not for me…for another woman, and my Cute Electrician went to Vegas and got married this weekend on a whim.

Honestly, the last one hurts a bit more than a sting!

Mr. Buckeye was really no big loss, I’m glad he is happy and married. I’m equally happy it’s not with me.

My Cougar Cub/Rock Star used to tell me that I was perfect for him but he wasn’t sure if he wanted kids. I stopped communicating with him when I realized he was engaged to another woman while seeing me at the same time. He has now dumped the old fiancé and is engaged to a woman who has two boys younger than mine (or so I’ve heard through the grapevine).

And last but not least, the Cute Electrician…well you all remember him, because you all loved him. My heart wasn’t in it with him from the beginning because he was fresh out of a relationship…I knew better. But when he called me yesterday to let me know that he and his fiancé eloped, I was a little hurt. I was careful not to get my heart involved in that because I knew it would only lead to heartbreak for me…but I can’t control my heart and I will admit I got a little teary eyed when he told me the news.

I don’t know why this pattern in my life shocks me so much, because it has become just that, a pattern. I should expect it, right? I’m never the “this” girl…I always…and I mean always end up being the “that” girl. You know the rundown, beat up toaster or cardboard box kind of girl. I’m never the one that guys fight for…I’m always the one that gets left behind for something/someone better.

Why is that? Don’t say anything like “because these guys are all losers”, because that doesn’t make me feel any better.

Just once I want to be the “this” girl and not the “that” girl…

Here we go “yo”…here we go!

Do Da Dippity!


  1. I totally want to be "this" girl too!

    I have this odd thing lately about having chicks fight over me. Not in a lesbian lover kind of way (although one of them did sorta hit on me and freak me out a bit the other day) but in a "I want to hang out with you and be BFF with you!"

    I'm so not a girly girl - or a girls girl - I like dudes better. I hang better with the guys...but I am with literally 4 different women clamoring for my time and attention.

    Weird...just weird...why can't it be 4 hot 20 something DUDES clamoring for my attention!

  2. You DO realize that when you DO end up "This" girl, you are going to have a ton of blogger mom followers crash your wedding because we will be so happy for you, right? I'm thinking the stars are lining up just perfectly waiting for that "right" moment!
    Btw, I'm waiting for your Bachelorette review ... I watched after the final rose last night... can I look forward to your take on it as tomorrow's post?
    Oh, and your "cup" post is up on the site. Thanks again

  3. I know this feeling all too well. It's easy to get hung up on the fact that these guys didn't commit to you, but really when you think of it, could YOU have imagined a future with them? Probably not. Maybe it could have worked, but you would have had to sacrifice a lot to make it work and that's not fair to you either.

    And while this may have been a pattern in the past, that doesn't mean it's the wave of your future. Don't ever settle~hold out until you find someone who can give you all the things you want in this life :)



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