Tuesday, July 6, 2010

If a Cougar Convention happens and no one attends does it make a sound

I was appalled!

I couldn’t believe it when I saw it on the news.

I couldn’t believe that women my age would stoop so low.

As low as a… “Cougar Convention!”

Yep, I couldn’t believe it when I saw it on the Today Show this past weekend. And you know me, I had to research it before I ripped on it. I’m just cool like that…

But more than being appalled, I was embarrassed by what I saw.

When I think of a cougar, I think of a woman in her 40’s with bleach blonde hair, fake nails, make-up up the wazoo, wearing tons of jewelry and animal print. So when I looked up the convention online, imagine my surprise when I saw this picture first.

Yep, they fit my description to a T! This is exactly why I only own one animal print top and one pair of snake skin leather heels. I don’t ever, and I mean EVER want to be mistaken for one of these women.

I guess my question is this…why do we have to make such a big deal out of older women dating younger men? It’s my opinion that these “Cougar Conventions” make this status a little more, shall we say, “hill billy” than necessary.

I mean come on, these conventions include an appearance by the Chippendales and a “Miss Cougar” competition. (that’s so 1980’s). The winner of the Miss Cougar completion was actually on record saying “I feel so amazing because so many guys still find me desirable! I’m worth something…namely their sexual desire!” Hmmm…I don’t know whether to feel sorry for this woman or kick her down in the middle of her high. To me this says, “I’m a hollow shell of a woman whose self worth is completely tied to her ability to make guys want her in order for her to feel better about herself.”

There is nothing positive about that! We have come too far to revert back to statements and behaviors like this.

For years, older men have been dating younger women and to my knowledge, (all 5 minutes of google research that I did) there are not conventions for them.

So why do we have to put such a huge emphasis on older women dating younger men?

Can’t we just be happy and not over analyze when Mr. Right walks into our path? I am of the opinion that we should never judge or balk about where we find love and who we find it with, because in my book we are just lucky when we do!


  1. That is completely insane and sad. I think the quote from the winner of the contest really sums it up. This is why, and I'm completely serious here, I feel like I'm sorta lucky to have been forced to develop a personality and whatnot. I have never been able to rely on my looks, and sexual attractiveness has never been a concern for me (well, it has when it comes to my relationship with my husband, but before him I wasn't involved with anyone else). As much as I sometimes wish I could look back to "the days when I was hot", when I see these women grasping desperately for a time which has passed them...I regain focus, let's say.

  2. I completely agree! Sort of like when a girl sleeps around she's a slut, but when I guy does it he's a stud...I think they are both awful stereotypes, but the male one is culturally far less negative!

  3. I saw that too. That's nuts!

  4. At the ripe old age of 27, I have been dubbed a "cougar" by the young man that mows my lawn for me. He said he thought it was way more polite to call me a "cougar" than to tell me I was a MILF.

    I'm not so sure...not after seeing ^^THAT^^ picture.

  5. My husband is 5 1/2 years younger than me, although he acts older than I do. Maybe that's the secret. I have never thought of myself as a cougar.



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