tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8574569577771615103.post8637971032662376175..comments2023-10-21T03:42:48.149-04:00Comments on He Who Laughs Last Didn't Get It: Something is not right hereJuliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09939072276782132013noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8574569577771615103.post-73297118819986971822010-07-08T14:47:16.176-04:002010-07-08T14:47:16.176-04:00It is has been a while since I have read your grea...It is has been a while since I have read your great posts but this one was providential.<br /><br />Being vulnerable is key! I have spent the last almost seven years erecting barriers to protect myself from the hurt I experienced in my marriage and past failed relationships. Honestly, I feel bad for the woman I tried to speak to because they did not get the all of me they deserved (though I fooled myself into believing that I had given it all). Choosing to expose yourself means you are willing to go all out, like Christ. Think about it! He died for us knowing that we'd be ungrateful jerks. That's true love. When God brought me to the point that I would be willing to re-marry my ex-wife (though I pray that will never happen), I was then ready to move forward.<br /><br />I am now in a relationship with a beautiful woman and I am more expressive than I have ever been in my life. Honestly, it freaks me out because I am trying close the faucet a little and God is keeping it open.<br /><br />On the communication issue: yes, communication is so KEY! However, who defines communication. For so long I was expecting my girlfriend to say "X" and say "Y" and was nervous because I was not hearing what she was saying. However, God showed me that she was saying so much in her actions. With all the programming skills and technological skills I have, I missed the boat completely. Now, I enjoy watching her because I can get my response by her actions. She wants to communicate more openly and verbally, but I am not going to rush her.<br /><br />So, try this. His words may so one thing and his actions seem different. But any single person, of the opposite sex, who would be willing to spend time with me when they could be doing God knows whatever; that person is saying a lot. One friendship I had like that I could not convert into a relationship. I had communicated that to her and I am glad I did not try to force something that was not meant to be. Because now, I am on Cloud 9!<br /><br />But this is just simple advice from a simple guy! :-)NEO, SOChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13311887811746690836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8574569577771615103.post-81204131985229292102010-07-01T17:04:48.788-04:002010-07-01T17:04:48.788-04:00It's a difficult road, the one you're on. ...It's a difficult road, the one you're on. It's so easy to fall into a relationship, arms outstretched and trusting... but the vulnerability is what kills me, too. I always keep my guard so far up, I feel as though I can't allow anyone else in. In all things, you have to remember to do what feels right to you, whether it's in the moment or as a long-term thing. I would try to get to the bottom of his behavior though. Has he been hurt, too? Maybe that's why he's sending you mixed signals. Or maybe he doesn't know what you're expecting from a relationship with him and he doesn't realize how his actions are coming across. But it's so great he has such a warm and inviting personality. I can see why there would be an attraction!Charlottehttp://mypixieblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8574569577771615103.post-10367653475102844202010-06-30T16:52:24.493-04:002010-06-30T16:52:24.493-04:00Oh, men can be great at the dating ambiguity thing...Oh, men can be great at the dating ambiguity thing. Your frustration is understandable.<br /><br />Here is a funny post for you: No Boyfriends, No Problems. You might get a kick out of it.<br /><br />http://floridagirlmidwest.blogspot.com/2009/12/no-boyfriend-no-problems.htmlTina L. Hookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12780807680745838371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8574569577771615103.post-38654598941246056852010-06-30T00:13:40.995-04:002010-06-30T00:13:40.995-04:00This is a really great post, and timely too. Trag...This is a really great post, and timely too. Tragically, I must say...I am HORRIBLE at true communication. I don't know what my problem is, but I just can't verbalize what I REALLY think, because it paralyzes me with fear. I have all this other great stuff going for me, but this problem of communication will be my downfall I'm sure. You are right, it is incredibly important and essential.<br /><br />Good luck with figuring out the non boyfriend boyfriend.Allyson & Jerehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09899323132507414349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8574569577771615103.post-20545589089721023832010-06-29T17:42:32.396-04:002010-06-29T17:42:32.396-04:00You are so right when the communication/words don&...You are so right when the communication/words don't match the actions. <br /><br />I actually told my ex husband the other day when he was declaring he HAD loved me and tried to show me the best he could...that no...saying "I Love You" every day was not SHOWING someone you loved them. Walking out the door and ignoring them, watching their needs (not wants but NEEDS) go unmet daily, verbally attacking them and neglecting your responsibility to them..that is not "showing" love. Words & actions really need to match in a relationship. <br /><br />Sorry that your non boyfriend boyfriend is like that. I TOTALLY understand the whole "non boyfriend boyfriend" thing too. I have one of those in my life! <br /><br />:-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00422648347443986000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8574569577771615103.post-49107945925581579872010-06-29T14:05:41.861-04:002010-06-29T14:05:41.861-04:00Hello lovely!
There is something for you over on m...Hello lovely!<br />There is something for you over on my blog!!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160809503250565345noreply@blogger.com