tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8574569577771615103.post7138930863047313381..comments2023-10-21T03:42:48.149-04:00Comments on He Who Laughs Last Didn't Get It: Wake up boys, I'm the package that good things come inJuliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09939072276782132013noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8574569577771615103.post-52281425389606642382010-06-16T11:40:59.860-04:002010-06-16T11:40:59.860-04:00I don't get the people with problems coming to...I don't get the people with problems coming to me thing...but I do have this inate ability to attract men with "issues" that need fixing...and I have this uncanny desire to help them fix them. And thus...I become a doormat...ugh...horrific cycle. <br /><br />(((HUGS))) I'll listen to you! Anytime!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00422648347443986000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8574569577771615103.post-61090188850817422872010-06-16T11:22:06.456-04:002010-06-16T11:22:06.456-04:00I call this phenomena Emotional Scaffolding (among...I call this phenomena Emotional Scaffolding (among other things) and was this person for quite a while. When I saw the pattern emerge after a couple of guys came and went I decided to accept and glory in the role, it was nice knowing that I was that safe harbor where a relationship could develop, serve its purpose, and then we could both move on.<br /><br />Granted, I wasn't wanting another shot at marriage and all that so it was easier for me to be a bit more zen about it.<br /><br />After a few years I found someone who does the same for me and it took me a while to be comfortable being on the receiving end. Now it's wonderful.<br /><br />It can happen. And, yes, it happened when I most definitely wasn't looking.Jennifer Vanderbeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776524959729835580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8574569577771615103.post-37013677061527742192010-06-16T09:25:54.105-04:002010-06-16T09:25:54.105-04:00I agree with The Non-Student, you teach people how...I agree with The Non-Student, you teach people how to treat you. If you feel as though you are being taken for granted than you have to be a little more selfish and not allow that treatment. You have to learn to be your own caregiver. Give yourself the same loving care that you so freely give to others.chelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15468273174800571759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8574569577771615103.post-15555210483847017022010-06-16T09:08:30.954-04:002010-06-16T09:08:30.954-04:00I have a friend with whom I'm in a similar sit...I have a friend with whom I'm in a similar situation. She's leaning on me heavily, and it's very unbalanced. It's been this way for several months now, and I'm getting tired of it. But I have to remember that I teach people how to treat me, and unless I bring this up, the dynamic probably won't change. I also have the care-taker "gene" from my mom, so it's something I have to work to balance out.KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.com